Do you feel like your dreams of motherhood feel more like a nightmare? You’re tired all the time, you haven’t washed your hair in a week, and you feel guilty if you take any time for yourself. Worse, you feel bad when you yell and worry that you’re a bad mom. To add insult to injury, the cookies or fries you just ate to feel better did nothing but make you feel more guilty! And the wine-let's not go there! But ugh!
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Maybe you’re a working mom and really struggle with juggling the responsibilities of motherhood and work. You’re overwhelmed and tired. All. The. Time. The stress makes you eat compulsively, and the momentary satisfaction you get from comfort foods quickly turn to guilt and anger at yourself. You wonder if it will ever get any better.
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Maybe you felt super confident and prepared to be a mom, but then your kids gave you a reality check. You feel like your kids misbehave, and wonder if you're the only mom who feels like this. You get overwhelmed and yell, then you feel bad and spoil them to make up for it, and spoil yourself with some trusts as well. Then they act bratty and you feel the tension building up until BAM!!! You snap! And the #momguilt merry-go-round continues to go round and round! Over and over again. And all you've got to show for it is five pounds and a boatload of guilt and frustration!
✔︎ What you want more than anything is a way to effectively manage mom-stress so you can enjoy motherhood more.
✔︎ You long to find a way to ditch frustration, #momguilt, and the cookie jar for good.
✔︎ You want to have effective ways of dealing with kid-misbehavior that don't include yelling or emotional eating.
✔︎ You want to raise thoughtful and respectful kids who listen and behave better.
✔︎ You want to react calmly and peacefully with your children so they feel secure and learn good communication skills.
“Overwhelm is just something I need to put up with.
It’s selfish for me to take care of myself; I don't have time. My kids have to come first; that's just how it is. The only problem is that over time, my frustration builds up, and then when they act up, I snap at them! Then the guilt takes over, and I spoil them, and drown my sorrows in Mac 'n cheese...or cookies....or wine. It makes me feel better, if just for a moment. I just don't see a way out of this cycle.”
It might be because you've been focusing on general solutions rather than an approach that's geared to your specific needs. You are a unique individual with both strengths and weaknesses that are different from those of other moms. You deserve an approach that honors all of you, not one that is cookie-cutter.
Maybe it’s also because most methods avoid the heart issues that drive both their misbehavior and our responses. They also focus on kid behavior first rather than supporting and equipping moms. In an airplane, one of the first safety instructions they give is to put on YOUR oxygen mask in case of emergency FIRST, then to help your child. When you are prepared, you are better equipped to help others.
Parenting is no different.
As a mom, when you take care of you first, you become the mom your kids need. When you nurture yourself first and get to the root issues of WHY you get so overwhelmed, yell, and eat emotionally, you can conquer the stress and the emotional eating.
You become a better mom, learn to parent with empathy, and set a positive emotional tone for everyone in your household. And then life gets better!
My passion is to help moms get rid of hot-button triggers that cause them to experience the kind of frustration and overwhelm that leads to yelling, mom-guilt, and emotional eating. I love to see my clients transform their lives, with less yelling, a healthy lifestyle, calm parenting, and so much more joy in their lives. I've been working with moms and families professionally for more than 15 years.
I’ve also successfully and happily raised four kids to adulthood, and they are all wonderful, successful adults who relate to others with empathy and thoughtfulness. I've overcome my own demons, so although I can relate to moms who are struggling, I know that there's plenty of light at the end of the tunnel.
I love, love, love being a mom, and I enjoy helping my daughter with her four littles.
In addition to personal and practical experience, I hold a doctorate with a focus on children and families. In 2013, I formalized things even more and became a certified life coach through CTA (Coach Training Alliance) so I could better coach moms.
My mothering journey has not all been flowers and sunshine though...
Things went OK with child #1. . .mostly easy, peasy. #2 gave me a run for my money. Can you say hyper? Swinging from the chandelier kind of hyper? Then child #3 came along. Oh! My! Goodness! This one broke the mold, and made it clear that I had absolutely no idea what I was doing as a mom. Any confidence that I had gained with the first two flew out the window! I found myself trying anything and everything to parent him and defaulted to the way I had been raised, which involved yelling and spanking followed by guilt, overwhelm, lots of comfort food and drink, and about 30 lbs of extra "comfort weight". Baby #4 just added to the chaos. So I can relate to the frustration you feel; I've been there!
This experience, though, taught me a lot. My child (#3) who was just “more” off everything—more hyper, more aggravating, more high maintenance, more naughty, more sweet and loving (yes, there were positive aspects to the “more”) was they key to changing my approach and, honestly, changing my life!
I want you to benefit from the mistakes that I made and the successes I’ve had.
When you work with me, I will coach you from a perspective of empathy and experience, and show you how you, too, can have kids who listen and behave better, so you'll yell less and enjoy motherhood more. I've been there, so I relate to how you feel. I also know how great it feels to be on the other side!
Imagine having proven stress-relief techniques at your fingertips. so you can speak calmly to your children from a place of strength and confidence.
Imagine waking up each morning loving what you do and being so happy to be a mom.
Imagine feeling confident and knowing that when you look in the mirror, you'll feel great about yourself!
Imagine what it feels like to ditch the frustration and overwhelm and kiss #momguilt and emotional eating goodbye for good!
Imagine having a peaceful home with thoughtful kids who listen and behave better.
📆 Personalized attention from moi for 12 weeks
☎️6 one-hour phone calls
💌Unlimited email, text, or Messenger follow-ups during our time together
"Thank you for coaching me and my daughter. Things were spiralling out of control, and I felt so helpless before we worked with you. I wanted you to know that I’ve grown so strong, and she’s doing great….I remember that you would say to me that I was a strong warrior and the Mama Bear... I’m proud to say, you were right! God is good!"
"As a mom to two young boys, I yelled a lot! They would pitch a fit. I would yell, and things would go downhill from there! Now, yelling and anger are a thing of the past; my kids listen better, and we are a happier family. Thank you!"
So how is the Epic Mom Mentorship different than other life coaching or counseling?
You have a choice:
You can keep struggling with the cycle of tantrums, backtalk, overwhelm, yelling, mom-guilt, and emotional eating, and do your best to overcome it on your own, or you can hop off the #momguilt/emotional-eating merry-go-round and into a place of peaceful parenting, where kids obey and act thoughtful, you yell less and enjoy motherhood more!
APPLY HERE FOR YOUR 20 MINUTE COMPLIMENTARY CALL.
Ditch the mom-stress AND the emotional eating for good!