Do you wish your kids would listen better the first time? You want to enjoy motherhood, but:
▷ Maybe you’re tired all the time, you haven’t washed your hair in a week, and if you step on Legos one more time, you’re afraid you’ll blow! Worse, when you yell, you worry that you’re a bad mom.
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▷ Maybe you’re a working mom and really struggle with juggling the responsibilities of motherhood and work. You want to ace both, but you feel like you’re getting a C+ in one and a D- in the other. You’re overwhelmed and tired. All. The. Time. You wonder if it can ever get better.
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▷ Maybe you felt super confident and prepared to be a mom, but then your kids gave you a reality check. You worry that your kids will never listen and that you'll always yell. You feel stuck in a rinse and repeat cycle of overwhelm, frustration, yelling, and #momguilt. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
What you want more than anything is to raise thoughtful kids who listen and behave better the first time without you having to yell, bribe, or manage tantrums.
✔︎ You long to find a way to get your kids to listen right away without yelling or bribing.
✔︎ You need effective ways to deal with the pressures that come with motherhood, so you don't feel burned out and at the end of your rope.
✔︎ You want to raise thoughtful and respectful kids who listen and behave better.
✔︎ You want to react calmly and peacefully with your children so they feel secure and learn good communication skills.
You may think:
“Yelling is the quickest way to get my kids to listen and behave.
My mom yelled; her mom yelled. I don’t want to spank, so yelling and punishments are the only ways to let them know who’s boss. And when yelling makes me feel bad, I’ll just have to learn to live with it or make it up to them later. Hello, #Momguilt!
“Overwhelm and frustration just come with mom territory. I just need to deal with it and try my best not to feel hopeless.
It's a given that I have to juggle everything. Cooking, cleaning, working, kid chauffeur, counselor, referree, kisser of boo-boos. . . . it’s all part of my job. Maybe I could outsource some things, but then I’d feel like I was failing somehow, you know? Don't good moms do everything? I worry that I'm not a good enough mom.
“My job as a mom is to take care of my kids not myself. I come second, even if that means I'm unhappy most of the time.
It’s selfish for me to take care of myself. My kids have to come first, even if that means that I don’t do things to make myself feel better. The only problem is that over time, my frustration builds up, and I snap at them when they don't listen! Then the guilt takes over, and I spoil them. It's a mom-guilt merry-go-round that I don't know how to get off!
“I worry that I'm doing something wrong. I've read books, tried different parenting methods, and asked everyone and their dog for advice, so why do I still feel this way? Why do I still yell?"
Maybe it’s because many books and parenting "methods" focus on one-size-fits-all solutions. If kid does this, parent should say that, and kid should respond this way.
These cookie-cutter solutions don't always work. They're not adaptable to every family, and you're left still searching for an approach that's geared to your specific family and situation.
The problem is that you and your children are anything but cookie cutter; you’re unique individuals and have a relationship dynamic that’s different from every other mom-child relationship. It’s no wonder that cookie cutter approaches don’t always work, since they’re not focused on your special relationship with your child.
Maybe it’s also because most parenting programs focus on outward behaviors first rather than supporting and equipping moms to best nurture and guide their children while nurturing and taking care of themselves. Happiness and a peaceful family start at the top. If mom’s not happy, no one is! And when a book or program bypasses mom and how mom feels, it neglects the person who sets the emotional tone for the entire family...
Hi, I'm Beth!
I've been helping and empowering moms like you for more than 15 years. I hold a Doctorate of Ministry (DMin), specializing in children and families. In 2013, I also received my life coach certification through CTA (Coach Training Alliance).
When I'm not equipping and empowering moms and their families, you can find me playing with my grand-littles, walking my poodles, or exploring beaches and mountains on the East Coast.
It’s not all been flowers and sunshine though...
I can relate to the struggles you face. My first two seemed pretty easy; my daughter pretty much always obeyed, and my first son responded to a "no no" immediately with tears and stopping whatever had prompted the correction. Then #3 came along. Oh! My! Goodness! This one broke the mold, and nearly broke me! He made it clear that I had absolutely no idea what I was doing as a mom. Parenting suddenly left me totally overwhelmed, wondering what was wrong with me and what was wrong with him.
Any confidence that I had gained with the first two flew out the window! I found myself trying anything and everything to parent him and defaulted to the way I had been raised, which involved yelling and spanking followed by guilt, overwhelm, and hopelessness. Baby #4 just added to the chaos. So I understand well how the #momguilt merry-go-round works!
This experience, though, taught me a lot. My child who was just “more” off everything—more hyper, more aggravating, more high maintenance, more naughty, more sweet and loving (yes, there were positive aspects to the “more”) was they key to changing my approach and, honestly, changing my life! Through my struggles with him, I developed a passion for helping moms like you, in similar situations, find a better way and parent effectively with peace and empathy.
I want to help you benefit from the mistakes that I made and the successes I’ve had. I want to teach you the better way that I learned, so that you will yell less and enjoy motherhood more.
“As a mom to two young boys, I yelled a lot! They would pitch a fit. I would yell, and things would go downhill from there! Now, yelling and anger are a thing of the past; my kids listen better, and we are a happier family. Thank you!"
"Your coaching has helped me go from feeling unsure and anxious about my abilities to going through my days feeling calm and confident with myself."
Kids who listen right away because you're parenting from a place of joy, strength, and peace.
Waking up each morning loving what you do and being so happy to be a mom.
Feeling amazing and confident because you trust that you are the perfect mom for your children and you know the best way to parent them.
How good it feels to ditch the overwhelm and kiss #momguilt goodbye for good!
Having a peaceful home each day with thoughtful kids who listen and behave better more of the time.
It’s time to open your Happy Mom Toolkit!
In your toolkit, you’ll find six modules filled with actionable steps and strategies that you can put into use NOW so that your kids will listen and behave better without yelling, bribing, overwhelm, or #momguilt! You'll enjoy motherhood more, and your kids will listen and behave better the first time!
Module One - You’ll learn short term strategies that you can put to use RIGHT NOW to ditch overwhelm and have you parenting your best ALL of the time!
Module Two - You’ll identify and detox from negative and limiting beliefs that might be driving your kids' behavior and your responses without you even realizing it!
Module Three - You’ll master how to attract good behavior and happiness into your life. You'll embrace a new and positive perspective that will be contagious. Your kids will listen and behave better as they rise up to meet your new and positive expectations and have you saying, "YES!!!"
Module Four - Here you'll practice proven techniques to remove your emotional blocks and manage stress for the long haul. You'll put to use simple techniques that you can use every day to make a world of difference in how you feel and how your kids respond to your parenting.
Module Five - You’ll learn how to solve the priority puzzle and nurture yourself and your relationships with your partner and your kids. You’ll learn the secrets of a parenting style that cultivates kids who listen and who are thoughtful and behave better.
Module Six - In this module, you’ll discover the secret way to maximize your family’s potential and put simple principles into place that will make it easy for you to sort through and prioritize obligations and activities. With almost zero stress!
“I am doing well! Working with you was a great experience for me. I would say that I have noticed the most healing exactly where I was hoping I would — with my anger with my children. I know it’s only been a couple weeks, but I have not had an outburst since.”
“I feel so blessed for your time and help. . . today was a good day. I applied some of the techniques that you suggested and they were very helpful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your help. I will always remember your kindness and generosity."
30 Day Happiness Guarantee
You have a full 30 days to try the program. If for any reason, you're not happy, you can request a refund (as long as all worksheets are completed)
So how is the Happy Mom Toolkit different than typical parenting programs?
The Happy Mom Toolkit is a system of skills, developed over many years, based on both my coaching and parenting experience. It can be individualized according to your personal needs, since you and your family are different from every other family. The Happy Mom Toolkit is designed for your SUCCESS, to get you and your kids to a better place quickly.
The Happy Mom Toolkit focuses on both you and your children. It first addresses your needs as a mom and gives you actionable steps to have kids who listen and behave better. You'll learn how to ditch the overwhelm, zap limiting beliefs, and embrace a new perspective towards your children that will make them want to listen and behave. You'll also gain new appreciation for your potential as a mom so that you're parenting from a position of confidence and calm.
“Thank you for coaching me and my daughter. Things were spiralling out of control, and I felt so helpless before we worked with you. I wanted you to know that I’ve grown so strong, and she’s doing great….I remember that you would say to me that I was a strong warrior and the Mama Bear... I’m proud to say, you were right! God is good!”
You have a choice:
You can keep struggling with the cycle of misbehavior, overwhelm, yelling, and mom guilt, and do your best to overcome it on your own,
You can hop off the #momguilt merry-go-round and into a place where you yell less with kids who listen and behave better the first time!